Today was one of those days where I got everything done that "needed" to be done, but nothing on my "want to do" list. I finally emptied the kitchen sink of the overflowing dishes that had piled up since yesterday when I had been too tired to clean the kitchen after dinner, folded and put away the mountain of clean clothes from 2 days ago, kept both little ones fed and clean, vacuumed, and finally, found the time to shower... at 7:45pm.

I've learned in the past month that as a mom of two with much less time on my hands than as a mom of one, in order to keep my sanity I've had to start letting go of being a perfectionist.

While doing something good and doing a good job at it is something I still strive for, perfectionism is becoming overrated.  The first couple of days that Frank went back to work, I spent half the day in tears, sobbing into his arms the second he walked through the door, all because of perfectionism and the idea that I could do it all still. That I NEEDED to do it all in order for me to feel like the best mom and the best wife. As I've started to let go of that mind-frame, I'm finding that even though I like to make sure we have a home that is straightened up and in some kind of order, I'm not getting upset if I don't have time to do something, I'll either find time to do it later or do it whenever I can find the time, even if it's not that same day.

Some days there may be a laundry basket full of clothes sitting in the bedroom that needs put away or dishes in the sink, some days I may not find time to shower until after my husband gets home from work, and that's okay, it doesn't make me a bad mom or a bad wife.

Mama's, let's take this idea of needing to do it all and just toss it out the window. We don't need to do it all. All we need to do is just love our babies as much as we can and do what we can when we can, keeping the joy in our lives by doing that instead of losing our joy by feeling like we have to do it all and trying to do it all. Maybe tomorrow I'll tackle a few things on that "want to do" list of mine (hello marie kondo-ing all our belongings) that I didn't have time for today, but then again, maybe I won't. And that's okay. :)

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